Disciplining your children means educating them regarding what is reasonable and acceptable. A child’s intelligent ability develops over time. It is important to harmonize the discipline of your children with their ability or capacity to comprehend. Kids, such as a baby, possess no understanding of what is right and wrong.
When you set limitations and expectations for good behavior, you are establishing the foundation and giving your child the tools to work toward self-control and self-esteem. Child discipline is not about punishing bad behavior; it is about guiding your child toward positive behavior. That does not mean that bad behavior should be overlooked.
Kids (especially under three) don’t misbehave and don’t have lapses – they have expectations they want to meet, such as hunger and thirst. They cannot however respond to reactions by changing behavior and so need to be taught, persistently, over and over again, for example, ‘put your shoes on when you go outside’. When they continue to go out without their shoes on, they are not disobedient, unruly, or reckless – they just cannot remember because of their little nature.
Trying to explain things to your children in ways that conform with their growth level and remembering to also lower yourself to their physical level is the easiest way of upbringing.
Children act out their emotions through their behavior, so it is important to recognize the emotions behind their behavior. If you understand the reasons behind your child’s misbehavior or emotions, you are the best shot —as a parent —to help them with solving underlying problems.
Are discipline and punishment the same in nature? People often use the terms interchangeably, whereas, things are better off beyond that.
Discipline is a route everyone takes to prepare others to follow rules or correct misbehavior. There is negative discipline and positive discipline.
Punishment is an element of negative discipline. It’s frequently used to end a behavior. Positive discipline, which is periodically known as positive guidance, works just as promptly. And it can be better off effective than punishment.
Discipline rewards the child for ethical behavior and prevents inappropriate behavior, using good and positive means. Some parents believe that discipline implies physical punishment, such as hitting and striking, or verbal abuse such as yelling or frightening the child. Some even result in extreme mode— combating and attacking their children like firing a missile. But sadly, this is not discipline.
The world is revolving. A lot of things are changing, but we became aware of that by our personal examples. Two children arguing with each other turned something else. One of them pushes the other, and they both start contending. Some parents may stop, displaying their identity, beating one, and sparing the other because of resentment, spite, hostility, grudges. Instead of working out amicably, saying “Stop it“! Don’t you know you’re friends?!”, the mind becomes filled with animosity and hatred.
That’s punishment and resentment. It may stop the behavior at the moment, but it’s not going to teach the little kids the skills they need to make a better decision and become a good person.
Discipline does not need to be physical. There are many ways to teach children without running the risk of hurting a child. Some examples of non-physical discipline are taking away privileges and “benefit of the doubt”.
When a child lies to his parents to avoid punishment for misbehavior. If the parents should discover the lie, they tell the child to condense somewhere they don’t want him to be perceived, as punishment.
For many parents, especially those who grew up in strict, with parents who don’t have enough to take care of their children, severe punishment is a form of discipline. But if the child is extremely ignorant and young to be outside unsupervised for the period of disappearance (this depends on the particular situation, neighborhood, ability of the child, and other factors), then what the parents consider punishment might become cruel because anything can happen to the child.
Parents doing this knowingly when they are aware of the consequences and that circumstances exist which make it almost certain that their action will cause the harmful result (a child passing out, or even dying as a result) aren’t training their children to be the best and having positive personality in life.
How Parents Negatively Influence Their Children
When parents act recklessly, they can create sorrow for themselves. A father is irritated in his teenage daughter’s manner. As a result, he picks up a chair or carry something heavy and throws it across toward the child. His daughter was paralyzed and died as a result. Or his daughter moves, and the object misses her. While she was not injured, the chance of damage was present.
When parents act intentionally, trying to penalize their children, they try a number of strategies to attain their goals. If they tried a number of different strategies with no improvement, they get frustrated and try even the hardest ways possible. Take a look at a mother trying to correct her child from accusing and cursing others. She puts something hot on the child’s tongue and holds her hand over his mouth, refusing to lift her hand. Unfortunately, the child choked and died as a result. Even though her goal was to correct misbehavior, her actions were terrible, resulting in endless misery.
Every circumstance is different, but it’s always best – because you want to be a positive parent – to respond to your child in a way that delivers and contributes positively to the child’s life, loving guidance and teaching, instead of a way that is cruel and acrimonious.
Whatever your child’s age, it’s important to be consistent when it comes to discipline.
It’s essential not to strike, hit, or smack a child of any age. Infants and toddlers may not likely be able to make any connection between their behavior and physical punishment. They will only feel the pain of the hit.
Children learn by watching adults, especially their parents. Make sure your behavior is exemplary, practice self-esteem, and mind restraint from punishment.
- Interact with your child in a productive manner. This can be things like permitting your child to call you with a nickname you love or by your first name, eating together as this will develop their spirituality towards loving and caring for their lives and their relatives, giving them tokens for doing assignments, Parenting techniques probably aren’t harming a child, though there may be some ways that the technique is not the most effective approach to interacting with your child.
- Learn to be teachable and teach your children to be teachable, by doing so, you create a network to talk over what is and is not appropriate behavior. Sometimes it means commending good behavior or rectifying bad behavior, and the motive is to guide the child in the right direction. There are many ways to discipline children; many times discipline is age-appropriate and effective, especially if parents have discovered methods for positive discipline and are consistent with their children.
Culture is not only racial background. It also includes gender, socioeconomic status, race, age, religion, teaching and instructions, and geographic location.
Parenting is culturally influenced. Manners of discipline, expectations of children, roles of parents, and social responsibility for children are some of the factors involved in parenting that are often established on the parents’ culture.
Understanding about a family’s cultural background can be important in realizing a parent’s style and means of discipline. Several times, parents are inclined to adopt some of their habits and traditions to the culture around them, while maintaining some of their common parenting technique.
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