Most of us think confusion just transpires in us. We think it’s a fundamental sentiment, a state of being. As if confusion signifies something factual about our understanding or not comprehending what to do.
Don’t forget that the road to success is a long path full of twists, turns, peaks, and valleys. While on this path, you’ll almost inevitably find yourself stuck in a hole of confusion and be unsure of which direction to turn.
“A confused man is a blind man”
Sometimes you go to the left when nothing is right. Sometimes you go to the right when nothing is left.
Even though you’ll feel stranded, remember that it happens to everyone; you’re not alone. The most important thing to keep in mind is that you’ll get through whatever problem you’re facing only if you persevere.
But here’s the truth: Confusion is an emotion created by your thoughts. Vastly often by the literal feeling and belief “I’m confused,” or “This is confusing, ” and “I will be confused.”
Confusion is such a destruction of the moment, a waste of time and yet we love it so. Why?
One justification and excuse we make, the reason we like to stay confused is that we don’t want to take responsibility for making decisions. We’re terrified of how we will think and feel if we decide something and feel it was the wrong choice later.
A decision you make today can determine your tomorrow destination. Everything just begins with a change of mind, intellect, and mentality.
Another reason we stay confused is we’re giving future circumstances the power to create our feelings. Whereas, we understand not what the future holds.
We believe the circumstances that may arise from our choice will create our feelings. If we don’t believe we can manage and organize our minds in the future, we fear what our unmanaged minds will do to us.
Fundamentally, confusion is a symbol of an unmanaged brain.
Confusion is influenced by thinking one decision is right, the other is wrong, and your happiness or success depends on selecting the right one. But they don’t. Confusion can be a severe medical condition.
Your happiness and success depend on your understanding and reflection. And when you understand you can always choose how you want to think and feel, there’s no reason to fear the future.
If someone around you is undergoing abrupt confusion, it is vital to stay calm, assess the situation, and call for help if necessary.
For safety, a confused person should not be left alone. A person who is confused about life can always perform the unthinkable, having suicidal thoughts, and undertaking dubious and suspicious acts.
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Having someone at their aid, within their reach can help them stay calm and protect them from injury. Try to keep the surroundings calm, quiet, and peaceful. Be reassuring and use simple words and short sentences to calm a person with severe confusion down.
If you turn back, you’ll be giving up all the potential success you could have possibly attained had you simply stepped back and assessed your situation. When life throws you turmoil, you should always heed these pieces of advice to properly deal with confusing situations.
Here’s how you cease being confused: You just decide.
The deepest level of eliminating confusion in your life comes from understanding, terminating, rejecting, and eliminating the source of the confusion.
Stop taking “I don’t know” as an answer from yourself. If you let your clients say, “I don’t know,” you would never be able to coach them. Your brain will always prefer to say “I don’t know,” because knowing requires attention and effort. Your brain would rather take a rest.
The second thing you can do is stop believing the thought “I am confused.” You don’t feel confused because of all the different options—you feel confused as an emotion because you’re saying the words “I am confused” in your brain.
When you started on your journey, you most likely had a set of goals you aimed to achieve. Of course, you were most likely incredibly anxious to get on the path toward success that you might not have spent much time thinking these goals through.
When you hit a bump in the road, you should always check your premises before forging ahead. Ask yourself:
Are my objectives sensible?
Anything can be achieved if you put your mind to it, but once you achieve your goals, will you be able to put them to good use? Are you studying microbiology to become a microbiologist, or because you just like to learn about plants, animals, and microorganisms?
Make sure your goals are actionable. After all, once you attain them, you’ll soon set even more goals with even higher aspirations. Make sure that the next step you take will open another door for you to walk through.
Are my goals Useful and Valuable?
Will practicing graphic designing three hours a day make you world famous? By all means, follow your passion, but you should definitely have a backup plan in case your big dreams turn out to be pipe dreams. A lot of people made a mistake twice by not learning a lesson from previous mistakes.
Will my goals change?
This is a tough one and because it’s hard to know what your priorities will be five or 10 years down the road.
Failing at something is not a roadblock. Rather, it’s simply a bump in the road on the path to success. If you treat failure as a roadblock, you won’t get very far. Your failure should be your productive factor of success.
You never know how close you are to finding success, so you should always keep pushing, especially when faced with the sting of failure. Likewise, you should redefine your failings as learning experiences.
When you fail at something, you’ve gained knowledge you didn’t have before (even if that knowledge is “Well that didn’t work!”). Take that knowledge with you when you get up to try again, and you’ll be able to strike the issue through an improved perspective.
Will my decisions change the way I survive?
Life is unpredictable, it is full of small and big decisions, but for some children, trying to decide feels painfully difficult. “I don’t know! I can’t decide!” they scream. Or, they might make a choice but quickly reverse their decision. “The red one! No, the blue one! No, the red one!” The stress of trying to decide might even lead to tears.
Decision making is one of the hardest things to make in life. As parents, it’s tempting to skip all of this drama and decide for our kids. But learning to make decisions is a life skill that kids can get better at with practice. With every decision, children construct their identity, declaring, “This is what matters to me. This is who I am or want to be—at least for now.” We don’t want to steal their opportunity to do this important work.
We all get confused at times, but lengthy periods of confusion can cause us to feel that we are stuck in a never-ending, cloudy net of uncertainty.
Confusion can make us feel powerless, anxious, stressed, and a whole host of other draining emotions.
But the deepest level of eliminating confusion in your life comes from understanding and eliminating the source of the confusion.
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